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This article is exactly what I needed on a Monday morning. Talks about how we are constantly working, doing a million things, etc. I need to start pulling myself away from taking phone calls, emails, social media etc. and saying no when I need to.
Why saying no is sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves.
Really enjoyed reading this and wanted to share!
Also enjoy our Project Assistant Dominique’s post Why Saying No Is Okay
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Hey Torry
Great topic and article. You want to help your friends out as much as you can. I like to be there for my friends when they need me. It’s good to because when the time comes when you need help they’ll be there for you. However, unfortunately not all friends are like that. There are a lot of people out there who will say they ‘re your friend so they can get favors for you when ever they want and won’t do anything for you. I have had a lot of people in my life who would just use me for rides and money. That is when you have to step in and say no. For example, I have a friend who lives with me that I used to hang out with all the time. We would hang out and watch t.v. almost every night. Then after a while she stopped talking to me as much. I just figured she was busy and didn’t have as much time on her hands which I understand, but when ever she called me it was just to see if I can give her a ride somewhere. At first I would be happy to help her out but after a while I started to notice that she would only call me for that. So I started to think, does she really look at me as a friend or a free chauffeur. The last time she asked me for a ride I told her no and it felt good to say it because I finally stood up for myself and told her I couldn’t do it. I’ll see where our friendship takes us but for now I’m not going to do her any favors. Sometimes it’s hard to just say no but sometimes it’s for the best.
Thankyou for posting this Torry. I hope you have a wonderful day.
Torry,
Thanks for sharing this article. Sometimes I can definitely struggle with finding the willpower to say no to people, especially if they are someone who am close to. Nevertheless, sometimes it has come to cause me harm and make me feel overwhelmed because then I cannot complete everything I have set out to do in a specific amount of time. It gets to be too much, and then often times I end up exploding instead of just having talked things through with the person in the first place and telling them I couldn’t do it. It will take practice, but this is something I need to work on.