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    How does humor heal trauma?  Here’s a brief…lopsided clip from my keynote at the Association of Applied and Therapeutic Humor Conference to explain!

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Humor is a creative container for un-fun emotions we try to repress in trauma.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Why do we joke about things?</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>It’s a way to contain it so we can manage it, we become larger than it, It gives us control in a healthy way.</span>

     

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Humor was our container in hospital, and it created a common ground to bring us all together.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>How did we all find a way to laugh, even when I was close to death myself, fighting for my own survival? </span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>My brother dated the ICU nurses.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Mom watched Everybody loves Raymond.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>We set up bowling games with medicine cups in hallway (we were repurposing, seeing things differently!)</span>

     

     

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Laughing at yourself can give you the confidence to do things (As soon as I was discharged from the ICU, I joined the cast of a local musical.)</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>If you can make containers as islands through your “detour,” you can swim through, and back into life.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Humor is the container that transports you across the rocky shore.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>So is play, and acting like a kid…or animal!</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Animals – instinctive play, there’s humor in that (read the book, Waking the Tiger) they lack self consciousness.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Humor allows us to discharge that energy.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>All negative emotions can be let out in a healthy container so they don’t eat away at us.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>We can decorate that container as creatively as we want – what does creativity mean to you? It can be many things!</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Creativity is just any outlet where we can channel the emotion we feel, share it and transform it</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>My diagnosis had no container, no formal label.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>If we can’t put a label on things we get overwhelmed. It feels beyond our control.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Humor gives us ownership. We don’t feel nervous to not have a professional, official  “label” to know how to handle sickness and uncertainty.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>We are brave enough to find our own way if we can laugh at risking and failing.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Some moments you just can’t find humor in the moment and that’s okay.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>You use mindfulness to be present.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>When I started to think of it as energy I got excited – creative fuel – it’s why the tortured artist gets excited by torture but doesn’t have to stay tortured</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>What are ways to transform that energy?</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>Mindfulness: felt sensations, get your head out of it</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>You can get to that place of nonthinking that allow animals and kids to PLAY.</span>

    <span style=”font-weight: 400;”>ONCE WE naturally discharge that energy, we get that load off our chest. We restore homeostasis – that means we feel balance – thanks to humor!</span>

    How does humor help you?

     

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