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“Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t and start loving yourself for everything you already are.”
Acceptance is often times difficult when a person has been through difficult experiences in life. It takes a lot to accept things such as not getting a good enough grade on a math quiz, being too short, having too much acne, etc. Nevertheless, when we strive to like our own selves as we are, that’s when true growth happens.
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I love this quote! I remember something I learned when I took DBT is Radical Acceptance, and I can definitely say it’s helped me out a lot.
Amily,
Although I didn’t even know that this was a part of DBT, I will admit that I did take it in the past. I’m dealing with a couple of things personally that I’m having a little difficulty accepting. I think I may find it easier to accept myself than to accept some of life’s difficult situations. Have you dealt with similar issues?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic Luz and Emily… accepting yourself can be really difficult, especially if you have not felt accepted by the people who matter to you. There are days when no matter what I do, it never seems good enough… but as I go along I begin to develop an appreciation for who I am and I learn to overcome my insecurities… thing is, I try to surround myself with positive people and if that’s not always the case, I do the things that matters most to me.
Kevin,
I greatly appreciate the idea you shared of being able to grow an appreciation for oneself by doing what matters most. I think this is truly important because similar to how we must be the change we wish to see in the world, we often must be the change we wish to see within ourselves. Also, I completely understand the feeling of struggling even more to accept myself when those that matter don’t accept me. It feels like a constant competition and I am never winning. Nevertheless, it is always important to self motivate and keep moving forward.
Self acceptance is a tough, lifelong process I believe. I grew up believing what everyone else told me about myself and then thoughts became my identity. I forever only knew to identify myself as my trauma, dirty, sick, the addict, homeless, person who ruined her life over and over again. I definitely believe shame and guilt can kill me if I let it! Yoga and journaling and therapy and choosing healthy people in my life who are also in recovery is what helps me to start to feel a little comfortable in my skin that never fit me right. Some days I can’t get out of my own way. Some days I can drown in self hatred. My goal is to get out of my own way and stay out of my own way! I think that takes a lot of practice though…
Thanks for the topic!
I dont always care about what other people think. Life is too precious to give too much attention to the negative.
We need to learn to let things go no one I going to accept yo. you have to accept yourself first then be accepted b people family and friends
Thats right Jame, couldn’t agree more. Here is a quote that I have learnt to live by,“The more you know who you are, and what you want, the less you let things upset you.”
I’m so glad that you have the support of your friends and I hope that you’re able to find acceptance from your grandmother how you would like it to be one day.
I can definitely relate to feeling as if I wasn’t accepted. I have felt that way in situations where I was early in recovery and going into certain support groups. I also didn’t feel accepted (and was rejected) by several recovery-related job positions because of the length of recovery that I had.
I’ve been able to find the ‘silver lining’ by remembering who I am in God’s eyes and the people that matter the most to me, like my family and best friends. It’s funny how certain people will support only certain things huh?
I appreciate you sharing this with all of us Fallyn. As for me, I think sometimes when I am out in public and I choose to wear sleeveless tops I feel rejected by others who stare at my old self-harm scars. Some do it with out knowing they do it, and others just stare, hard, not knowing the effect it could potentially have on someone. When things like this happen, I try my best to realize how far I have come and that there is nothing I can do about my scars except maybe continue to cover them up with tattoos. Nevertheless, they are a part of my journey of recovery, and I am being strong in choosing to expose my raw truth to the world around me whether they are able to handle it or not.
I completely agree with this statement , I think kids or anyone should accept peoples views and what they believe in . But I don’t think people should push kids into learning something at school or at a library because some parents aren’t ready to speak on some topics or don’t believe in current things that other people are inputing in their lives. So this would affect some parenting like if some parents haven’t talked about different types of sexualizes. But of course people should express themselves and should shun people on how they act or what they believe in .
I completely agree with this statement , I think kids or anyone should accept peoples views and what they believe in . But I don’t think people should push kids into learning something at school or at a library because some parents aren’t ready to speak on some topics or don’t believe in current things that other people are inputing in their lives. So this would affect some parenting like if some parents haven’t talked about different types of sexualizes. But of course people should express themselves and should shun people on how they act or what they believe in .