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A forum to connect with other young people about emotional and mental health and substance use issues.

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  • in reply to: Personal Stuff #890
    Vee RuizVee Ruiz
    Participant

    Hi everybody, my name is Isabel and I’m one of the content developers for TurningPointCT.org. I’ve been working on this website for the past two months, because I myself have struggled with my mental health.

    I’ve been in recovery from my depression and anxiety for about two years now. Even though I have made so much progress, even though I am in recovery, I still struggle with my mental health on a daily basis. Mental illness doesn’t go away, it is a constant, unrelenting struggle. And yes, it is much easier now for me, but it’s not easy, per se.

    I’m really excited about the Let’s Talk component of the website. Not only does it allow you and me to talk about anything we want, it allows you and me to connect with people struggling with similar issues. It’s a great place for peer-to-peer support, and a safe place for people to talk about their problems.

    I really look forward to seeing the forum grow, and from me, personally, welcome to TurningPointCT.org!

    in reply to: Social Stuff #892
    Vee RuizVee Ruiz
    Participant

    Hey guys. My name is Isabel and I’m one of the staff for this website. Outside from being a staff member, I struggle with my own depression and anxiety. So, something really shitty happened last week and I thought I would post about it in here, since that’s what the forum was created for.

    While I was on vacation last week, my boyfriend dumped me over video chat. He said that it would be easier to break up “sooner rather than later,” citing the fact that he doesn’t want to be miserable when he goes off to college in the fall. At the time, I was extremely upset, sobbing and everything.

    I wish that I didn’t feel so goddamn inadequate and shitty about myself after every break up. It’s like, I break up with someone or they break up with me, and my self-esteem just totally evaporates. I feel totally worthless and unlovable and ugly and fat and annoying, and basically every negative adjective you can think of. I know I shouldn’t base my self-worth on whether or not I’m in a relationship, but that’s really difficult for me.

    I think what was most upsetting to me was the fact that he lied about his real reason for breaking up with me, since I found out later that he started seeing someone immediately after we broke up. I wish he had just been honest about it, instead of lying about it. How disrespectful can one person be?

    in reply to: Coping With This Thing Called Life #894
    Vee RuizVee Ruiz
    Participant

    Hey everybody, it’s Isabel, and I just thought I’d post in here about something that’s really been stressing me out lately, and since the forum is here for a reason, here it goes.

    I stopped living at home for a while in my sophomore year. After 10 months, I moved back home to live with my family, and I’ve been home for two years now. In the fall, I’m going off to college 6 hours’ drive away.

    It’s funny because ever since I started high school, I’ve been dreaming of this moment. The moment when I’m finally an adult, when I’m finally independent, when I finally get out of Connecticut. But now that the moment is actually here, I’m not really sure how to handle it. I definitely have conflicting emotions. On one hand, I’ve finally gotten myself acclimated to my current life, and I’m really sad and stressed about leaving. But on the other hand, I’m excited for new experiences. I know I’ve made a lot of progress in the past two years, but I’m questioning if I’m really ready to go off to college.

    Has anybody dealt with something like this before?

    in reply to: Coping With This Thing Called Life #896
    VeredVered
    Member

    Hi, my name’s Vered and I’ve been so proud to work on this website for the past year!  This website is everything I’ve been looking for and talking about since I first started navigating the system, trying to get help for my depression and PTSD.

    I’ve been totally open with my parents and friends about being in recovery and being an advocate for mental health, and they’ve been very supportive.  But the other day, my mom told me something that just sucked.  She said, “Just be careful, you don’t want those lunatics ruining the forum.”  (I added the italics)  I mean, really?  After all of our conversations, she’s still using that word?

    To be fair, I know that she wasn’t referring to us—people in recovery and people dealing with mental health issues.  I know she was referring to people who actively promote stigma, trolls who go out of their way to join any discussion and make it toxic.  But…did she really have to use that word to describe them?

    in reply to: Personal Stuff #898
    VeredVered
    Member

    Hi there! My name is Vered, and I’m one of the young people who have been involved in developing TurningPointCT.org.  As someone in long-term recovery from depression and PTSD, I’ve been really excited about building this resource.

    When I first went into the hospital and got a diagnosis and medication, I didn’t know about any resources other than talk therapy, meds, and hospitals (psych units).  Nobody told me what was out there!  It’s taken me seven years of networking to learn about all the different options available—each organization leading me to another, and another, and another…

    But no one had a comprehensive list of everything that was available to let me get started right away.  Very few people were able to give me advice on how to access services, apply for benefits, or find training programs.  And the thing is, my experience wasn’t unique—all the other people my age I’ve talked to have had the same experience.

    As if it wasn’t enough to deal with mental health and addiction issues—symptoms, relapses, remission—it’s another whole issue to navigate a system that is pretty disjointed!  Believe it or not, there are people whose full-time job is to help us figure things out—but you have to know that help is out there so that you can ask for it, and you have to know who will be able to tell you.

    So when I heard about this project, I knew I had to be part of it.  This resource is everything I’ve been asking for since I got started seven years ago! I’m really excited to hear from you in these forums about who you are, what’s going on with you, how you’re dealing, and what we can do to make TurningPointCT.org better meet your needs.

    So, who are you and what brings you here?

    in reply to: Personal Stuff #900
    VeredVered
    Member

    Hi, this is Vered again. I don’t want my story to take over the forum—we really want to hear from you.  But I have to share about this thing I’m doing that’s so exciting!

    I’ve been taking meds to treat my depression for seven years now, and after next week I will be done with medication!  I’ve been cutting back on my meds for a few months, and I’m almost done with that process.  I’m so excited, but also kind of nervous.  I only know one other person who’s going through this.  Are we the only ones out there?

    in reply to: Social Stuff #927
    Vee RuizVee Ruiz
    Participant

    Hey guys, it’s Isabel. I’m pretty upset about something that happened last week, so I’m posting about it here.

    I met this girl at orientation, and she was the most manipulative, ditzy, dumb, attention-seeking girl I’ve ever met. I don’t usually hate people – it’s very rare that I’m unaccepting of someone – I just couldn’t see one good quality about her.

    So when both of my guy friends started drooling over her, I was pretty annoyed. Especially since she basically pitted all of us against one another – THAT’S how manipulative she is – and now none of us are friends. It was so frustrating to me that I basically lost two good friends because of this girl.

    I hate this situation.

    in reply to: This sucks.. #980
    AvatarAmanda
    Participant

    When I was in college I also met someone that was very manipulative and, in the words of someone who knew me back then, “treated me like a slave.” No matter how many times people tried to tell me what was going on, I couldn’t see how bad things were and I still kick myself for what happened. It’s so hard because in that situation you can’t even see straight. This person used to guilt trip me if I told them to leave me alone, by saying that something would happen and that it would be my fault. I wish I had listened to everyone around me.

    in reply to: Announcements #981

    Hi All!!!
    My name is Hillary and I am the founder of a start up project called 1 Cause 1000 Thoughts, as well as a Stamford native (SHS class of 2009 woo hoo!)
    1 Cause 1000 Thoughts started as one blog post about my own experiences dealing with depression for five years. I thought no one would read it, but it skyrocketed to all my Facebook friends and, eventually, the whole country. The whole purpose of 1C1000T is to, not only raise awareness of the social stigma of mental illness, but to let people share their stories and connect with one another on a ethos level, but, why don’t you check it out for yourself! Head to http://www.1cause1000thoughts.wordpress.com.
    So, if you’re ready, we are here. share your story. Make a difference. To share your story about depression,anxiety,or anything else bothering you, send it to 1cause1000thoughts@gmail.com so it can be posted in our blog (completely anonymous of course!) your story can help someone else feel not so alone, and in turn let them do the same!
    Thanks all! Happy Summer!
    Hillary Goldsmith
    Founder,1 Cause 1000 Thoughts

    in reply to: Suggest a Topic for Our Forum! #1012
    VeredVered
    Member

    Hi there!

    Right now, our forum is just getting started–so if you need to talk about something that doesn’t already have a space here, we need YOU to join in and tell us.  You can post a response below, or send us a suggestion through the link in our Rules & FAQs.

    in reply to: Hi, i’m Nelson #3309
    Hannah WoolHannah Wool
    Keymaster

    Hi! I’m 20 years old and I have been struggling with social anxiety my whole life. This has made me unable to form any kind of friendships and has also made me socially awkward. Every person I meet it seems like I screw everything up by making things awkward. I try to avoid everyone I know at all cost to make sure I do not have to socialize with them. I also try to avoid any social events such as parties, class presentations, introducing oneself to peers, and anything that has to do with socializing with others. I know if I keep on going down this path my life would just go downhill. I really don’t want to live my whole life by myself. I yearn for friends, every time I see people hanging out with their friends I become depressed and ask myself why I am so different from them? why can’t I be like them? I feel so alone because no one understands me and I think no one ever will. Right now I have no support systems, I don’t have any friends so I cannot tell me problems to anyone. My parents don’t seem to understand my situation and I have also been to therapy but nothing seems to work. I hope one day my social anxiety will go away so I can live a life of happiness.

    in reply to: Personal Stuff #1041
    Avatartom starr
    Participant

    Hi! I’m 20 years old and I have been struggling with social anxiety my whole life. This has made me unable to form any kind of friendships and has also made me socially awkward. Every person I meet it seems like I screw everything up by making things awkward. I try to avoid everyone I know at all cost to make sure I do not have to socialize with them. I also try to avoid any social events such as parties, class presentations, introducing oneself to peers, and anything that has to do with socializing with others. I know if I keep on going down this path my life would just go downhill. I really don’t want to live my whole life by myself. I yearn for friends, every time I see people hanging out with their friends I become depressed and ask myself why I am so different from them? why can’t I be like them? I feel so alone because no one understands me and I think no one ever will. Right now I have no support systems, I don’t have any friends so I cannot tell me problems to anyone. My parents don’t seem to understand my situation and I have also been to therapy but nothing seems to work. I hope one day my social anxiety will go away so I can live a life of happiness.

    in reply to: Hi, I’m Isabel #1042
    Avatartom starr
    Participant

    Hey Isabel. I would just like to know if there are any meetups for this website? Like do any of the people here actually meet up and talk about their problems? Thanks!

    in reply to: Hi, I’m Isabel #1046
    Vee RuizVee Ruiz
    Participant

    Hi Nelson! Thanks for reaching out – we’re brand new (launched last week) so we’re looking forward to getting to know new people through the site – the meetup idea is really cool and would be a perfect offshoot of this website when we have enough people participating from a similar area. That’ll probably be down the line but we’re definitely going to be doing stuff on college campuses in the fall so maybe that’ll be the first opportunity!

    in reply to: Your Feedback Here!!! #1056
    VeredVered
    Member

    Hi there!

    As a young adult in recovery who’s been involved with this website, I’ve been so empowered by the way teens and young adults in recovery have been involved in TurningPointCT.org, during every step of the way.  We’ve really focused on providing you the information WE would have wanted to have when we were where you are now–just getting started. But our work isn’t done yet–we may have missed a few things–so we need YOUR feedback!

    Need a term explained that isn’t yet listed in the Glossary? Know of a treatment method we haven’t included in What Are My Options for Feeling Better? This is the place for any and all of your feedback on content you feel is currently missing from TurningPointCT.org

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