I have been making goals lately and have been making small steps to achieving them instead of looking at it as a huge goal that may not be achievable. I was thinking about some of my fears and how I may be able to over come them..
1. I have a fear of loss. I am afraid of losing people, even if it’s a good thing that maybe a friendship ended or something.
2. I have a fear of getting hurt. My feelings tend to get hurt easily and even though I am working on it, I’ve noticed I allow it to get in the way.
I am afraid of not being able to reach my full potential. I fear that for some reason or another, I won’t be able to be the best me that I want to be and graduate, get married, have children, etc. I try my best to focus on the fact that I am the one who controls my destiny so that when I worry about it a lot I can just brush it off and continue striving because I am the one that is ultimately in control.
I think one of my biggest fear is failure. I am terrified of failing on such a large scale, that it feeds into many other smaller fears, fuels self-doubt, hatred, procrastinating, giving up, and more. I am also afraid of disappointing other people, of judgement (much less so now that I’m older) and of “missing” out (and of making the wrong decision). I’m trying really hard to delve into my fear of failure, so that my anxiety does not transfer into my parenting. I’ve been trying to be more and more aware of the negative ways my fears and anxiety affect me (more specifically as a parent) and how I can change it.
Hey everyone! It’s been so interesting to read about how different people fear different things (but they are also similar when you really think about it). It took me a really long time to get to the root of my fear- the actual thing I am afraid of, which all my other fears stem from. I am afraid of death. I am afraid of my death and I’m afraid of the death of others around me (essentially my loved ones). I am aware that death is inevitable, but I think, like most others, I cannot explain why this is my greatest fear.
Some smaller fears I have include: being lied to, missing deadlines, being hurt (physically or mentally), losing something important to me.
I find a fear that is applicable to man-kind a whole is the fear of being alone, and that’s why I think there’s such a high suicide rate in wide open mid western states in the US because people are isolated out there
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