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I am the type of person that doesn’t like dealing with any type of disruption in her schedule whatsoever. I feel as if once I have a certain routine memorized and I alter it in some way, everything else that surrounds my life will come tumbling down. This is a hard reality that I’ve had to face over the years, and I have come to realize that my sense of wanting control over every little thing in my life is my way of gaining control over all those years that I did not have a say in what occurred to me or around me. Dealing with change can still be quite triggering and emotional, but I find a way to fight through it and make it all work out in the end.
I feel as though I can relate Luz… constant change can be frustrating, especially when you don’t get to complete the things you set out to accomplish.
I have been transitioning from being ‘too organized’ to just ‘letting it go’. But I think moderation is good: preparing for the unexpected.
What kinds of things have worked for you in your transition of going from being “too organized” to just “letting go”? I feel that maybe by hearing your ideas, I can generate a list of my own as well as try some of your own to help me derail from my current structured regimen.
Dealing with changes is hard like moving to a new place you have to try to figure out where are there stores or, places around you near your new place and, you meet new people when you are already used to the people from your old neighborhood can be frustrating and annoying
I still maintain some structure… like writing a to-do list at the start of the day and setting realistic duration to complete each task, but if at the end of the I haven’t completed everything I usually leave some items for the next day.
I leave some free time open as well [just an estimate of how much time I may spend doing other things throughout the day].
So I am always prepared for any ‘surprises’ throughout the day.
I also do the more challenging tasks at first, so I don’t end up rushing to the end of the day and becoming frustrated. Also, if allowed, I listen to music that allows me to concentrate on what I am doing and also to reduce any other distraction.
Also, I start my day early- get enough sleep at night- that means I go to sleep early [maybe a little boring for some people, lol] but it gets me going.
Please share some of your ideas as well and any other ideas you come across.
Here is a very interesting video that I came across, hope it can help in some way…
I completely relate to every word you said, Luz.
I always tell all of my friends that if they want to make plans with me I need t know about them 24 hours in advance. I get so anxious when something messes with my schedule. I’ll have full blown panic attacks because something didn’t go as planned. I love routine. I could have the same thing for breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day and never get bored. It’s comforting to me.
I’m still trying to learn how to “go with the flow”. I’ve noticed that it helps if I’m with someone I trust when I find out about the change. If I can trust them enough to not let everything else round me come tumbling down then I am better able to cope Probably not helpful to anyone else but that’s what helps me.
I feel that being able to vent to someone who understands how bad even the slightest change in my routine can be is very helpful, so I definitely understand when you say that being with someone you trust when you experience change is comforting for you. Also, I too am trying my best to get away from routines as much as I can without getting too overwhelmed about things; not wanting to make a gigantic U-turn is definitely a great tip to follow! I currently feel like I am in a good headspace and do not want to change too much else, but am glad I did make some slight adjustments. Baby steps helped me because I felt like I needed to welcome some change in my life and if you do ever want to be able to change stuff sometimes, its going to be a very, very, very, slow process. Just remember, slow and steady always wins the race and you know yourself better than anyone else does.
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