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  • #8243

    torry22
    Participant

    Isn’t this the truth?! When I finally started to love who I am, I felt bad for those who could not simply be happy for me or with me. Hate is such a useless emotion or trait to have in my opinion. I think we should be lifting each other more, rather than putting others down.

    <3 Torry

  • #8247
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    I chose this as my quote for today because I feel that so often as young adults we are looked down upon because we are too young or “lack life experience.” I feel as though maturity does not come with age, and success comes with hard work not with a number on a scale.

  • #8266

    torry22
    Participant

    The more aware I became with detail, my surroundings, my choices etc., the more I became positive. However, negativity still plays a factor in life; we can deal with that negativity very different when being aware and conscious. Not everything is a crisis to me anymore, and I can deal with things head on.

    <3 Torry

  • #8284
    Allison Kernan
    Allison Kernan
    Keymaster

    My quote of the day is, “Pray before you overthink”.

    It’s easier said than done sometimes, but it helps remind me to center myself before getting lost in my mind. sometimes I create a whole forest of thoughts in my mind that weren’t even necessary. I tend to jump to things and already make decisions, without even talking to my ultimate guidance first: GOD!

  • #8290
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    I know as a human being that I make mistakes and that I have been in really dark places before. On the contrary, however, I know that I have come a really long way from where I was two, even one year ago, and I am extremely proud of the progress I’ve made. Sometimes we have to endure a lot of pain and hardships to get through to the other side and see ourselves succeed triumphantly, but in the end it is so worth it. #mygrowthgameisstrong

  • #8302
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    This is my quote for today because I want to be able to work so hard and have so much dedication that I make such an impact with my career that everyone will know who I am and what it is I stand for. To me it will not be about the money, or being recognized by the most prestigious of places or people, but rather all the people I will have reached by the time I am through with my work.

  • #8306

    torry22
    Participant

    Allison,

    I love that quote- “Pray before you overthink”. Thanks for sharing!

    Luz, you always have the best quotes!

    Thanks for sharing, ladies!

    • #9497
      chenieceo
      chenieceo
      Participant

      I have an upcoming appointment that I am very anxious about and all I can do is think about it! After seeing this quote I know that I will just pray about it!

      • This reply was modified 2 months ago by chenieceo chenieceo.
  • #8324
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    I too really like the quote “pray before you overthink”. I find myself stressing about things that may not even ever happen. I could keep myself calm so much easier by saying a quick prayer.

    My quote for the day is: Almost everything will work again after a few minutes if you just unplug it for a few minutes… including you.”

    I think this is very important because with so much chaos constantly going on around us, there must be some time dedicated specifically for winding down and relaxing our minds. With technology going up in every direction and kids refusing to communicate face to face anymore, I feel we are going to lose a grip on reality if we don’t disconnect from everything around us, including electronics, and simply allow ourselves time to breathe and focus on all that is good.

  • #8339
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    My quote for the day is:

    “The inhale doesn’t matter if the exhale isn’t there.”

    To me this is so vital to everyday living, for if we want to take a deep breath and improve on certain things, what will the point be if no difference is made or noted? In order for a breath to make its full impact, one must do the full exercise and both breathe in and out to gain the benefits. When we only do half of the work, nothing will change and our body will not benefit. As is life- if we work on something trying to just get by, we will never reap any benefits. Meanwhile, when we give more of ourselves, we will see the impact we are making for the greater good.

  • #8354
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Often times, I find myself making a complete fool of myself or being the silliest me I can possibly be, something I find extreme comfort in these days since not too long ago I was frightened to let loose and be my authentic self. In those moments, my boyfriend and other loved ones may look at me with such a perplexed look upon their face, often ashamed to be seen with me. Also, many times when I am being very loud within my apartment, I am told to lower my voice because others are concerned for what others may think based on what I say. I love repeating the same thing back to them, which is: “they don’t pay my rent!” Why am I going to allow someone who doesn’t have any impact on my well being or have any right to determine my emotion because they aren’t doing anything for me, take away my happiness? Forget that! I’ll be loud, giddy, obnoxious, joyous, happy, funny, annoying, embarrassing, etc., until I am doing something that I know is causing harm to someone else. Until then, I am not going to let ANYONE, or ANYTHING, dull my sparkle.

    • #8368
      livhanna
      livhanna
      Member

      Great quote! This is definitely the formula for happiness and confidence in today’s society. It is so important to be yourself and to not be ashamed of it. No one likes every person they meet. All you have to do is find the people that do like you! Sometimes it is hard to not care what people think about you. However if you focus on the people that do love you, the others will slowly fade out of your life. Thanks for sharing!

  • #8381
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Life may take you where you least expect it, but have faith you are exactly where you are meant to be. Many times I have wondered if making the choice to work and not finish college was the correct decision. Nevertheless, when I see the positive impact I am making on others’ lives with the work I do I know for a fact that this path is the right one, even if it isn’t the ritualistic- graduate high school- go to college- get a job-routine. I am making a difference and I am where I need to be.

  • #8430
    Rai
    Rai
    Keymaster

    Wish I could double tap and like this! Everyone’s journey is different… I’ll see you at the top Luz! I am super proud of you for being able to realize your importance and your path… that’s huge! Do your thing and keep shining. You’ve got it!

  • #8432
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    It is often hard to realize we have the power to get unstuck from situations that seem like they are permanent when in reality they really aren’t. By viewing things from a different perspective, we allow ourselves to be open to an entire new realm of possibilities. After all, we are the only ones that limit ourselves, besides that, the sky is the limit.

  • #8459
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    We have the say in when we choose to give up and let our battles win. We can either live life hopeless, or live each day feeling invincible. The power is all in our minds, and what we truly believe is reflected in our everyday attitudes and actions. Be more than what anyone said you would be. Be greater than you ever thought you could be. Accomplish the unthinkable. Simply be great!

  • #8533
    Rai
    Rai
    Keymaster

    “The power is all in our minds and what we truly believe is reflected in our everyday attitudes and actions.” !!!!!!! YASSSSSSSS! to that! Thanks for that motivation, you really just boosted me up and reminded me of why I do what I do and why I am the way that I am! It’s all a mind game… you are what you think! I hope this encourages people to start thinking more positively and to get back out there with a new mindset, You can accomplish anything you put your mind to, make it happen!

  • #8706
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    This quote is so short and sweet, but it is so accurate and important as well. By first believing that we are capable of accomplishing anything, we have already set ourselves up as triumphant over any scenario. I am truly a believer in the power that comes from our thoughts and our tongue, and that what we confess will become true. The more we state that something is possible, the closer we will be to accomplishing it. First believe it, then achieve greatness!

  • #8754
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    No one can paint a picture of what our personal success can look like, only we can define that ourselves. Set out break your own records and meet your own expectations, leaving behind the mold that society has set for us from the beginning.

  • #8763
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    When you notice that nothing seems to be changing in the world around you, decide to be the change you wish to see in the world. Most often, the change we desire to see can best be influenced by our living, breathing example.

  • #8785
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    On this road to recovery, we will triumph and we will succeed, but at the same time we will have some of the hardest days of our lives. Although sometimes we may think that we need to be strong and hide what we are truly feeling within us, the reality is that we can all sometimes be hit with difficult situations, but can come out standing tall on the other end. It is okay to feel every emotion within our body, because that is what makes us uniquely human.

  • #8790
    livhanna
    livhanna
    Member

    I love this quote. Shows that it is okay to have a rough day or even a rough year! The sky will eventually clear up and things will get better and it is important to emphasize the moment the storm disappears and the sun comes shining through!

  • #8815
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    This reminds of the song that goes: “One way or another, I’m gonna find ya, I’m gonna getcha getcha getcha getcha…”
    I feel like all we really have to do is focus on our end point. If you are currently going through hell, that’s exactly what you do, just keep going on through it until you reach the other side.

  • #8848
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    “Right now you might be in a situation that you think you won’t survive but six months ago you were in a situation that you didn’t think you’d survive and two years before that you were in a situation you didn’t think you’d survive and the point is you will always surprise yourself and you will always make it through.” πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  • #9044
    Kevin A.
    Kevin A.
    Keymaster

    “Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.” – German Proverb.

  • #9059
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Starting over from scratch is one of the most difficult types of processes I’ve had to endure, especially after being accustomed to being with someone and feeling a certain way for so long. But I must understand, that is NOT the way to live. Humans DO NOT live like that. I DESERVE love, respect, to be honored. And although it hurts for now, I know my growth will feel better in the end than the entire process or any previous negative experiences.

  • #9170
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    The first step on the journey to healing is acknowledging that we are SO worth the fight, that we are SO worth the effort to even want to get better and leave behind all things that cause us pain. Once that is understood, we open up the doors to become relieved from everything that has been tormenting us.

  • #9175
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Sometimes the hardest thing to break is a pattern that we are used to living by day in and day out. The key thing to remember is that although it may be HARD, it is NOT impossible. With effort and practice molding ourselves to change old behaviors can happen, and we will be able to reap positive benefits from our changed behavior.

  • #9187

    sydneydel
    Keymaster

    My quote of the day is from Walden by Thoreau. The book ends with:
    “There is more day to dawn. The sun is but a morning star.”
    It reminds me that there are more good things coming. So let’s all stay positive! πŸ™‚

    • This reply was modified 3 months, 2 weeks ago by  sydneydel.
  • #9253

    torry22
    Participant

    I am loving all of these quotes!!

    My quote of the day today is:

    “Defeat is not the worse of failures; Not to have tried is the true failure.” – George Edward Woodberry

  • #9284
    Kevin A.
    Kevin A.
    Keymaster

    Taking risk is scary but if you want to get ahead you have to learn how to step out into the unknown. I feel empowered to challenge myself to do the things I once believed I couldn’t.
    “Stop worrying about what you have to loose and start focusing on what you have to gain.”

  • #9430
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Although it is much, much easier said than done, the first step to getting out of a cycle one has been in for a long period of time is to make the conscious decision to stop making excuses and go after the feeling of wanting to improve a situation. After all, a dog can chase it’s tail for only so long before it realizes that it is attached and then it too moves on to something else.

  • #9433
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Let’s say no more to the things that cause us anguish, stress, worry, and feelings of unhappiness! Let’s choose to be happy and joyful today!

  • #9464
    chenieceo
    chenieceo
    Participant

    Surviving takes strength.

    • #9493
      chenieceo
      chenieceo
      Participant

      β€œToday is a gift from God – that is why it is called the present.”
      ― Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

  • #9489
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    I feel like society has always set the standard of success being someone with the most money, the fanciest material things. By me being able to stand my ground in my morals and beliefs, being able to show others that I am responsible, capable of being educated and growing, being reliable, respectful, having manners, etc., that is what true success entails. Money can only dig so deep!

  • #9490
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Believing that we can or can’t accomplish something begins with something as simple as a thought. If we wholeheartedly believe we are going to be able to be triumphant over any situation, we will be able to do just that.

  • #9527
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    I’ll never get tired of stating this: At times we feel like we are having the worst day of our lives, and that no matter what happens there’s no way it’s been any worse. And then poof! I somehow manage to get through the day, as hard as it was, through tears and hard moments, and I am on a positive path again until boom- here comes another bad day. Now I feel like this is the worst it’s EVER been. It’s not. I’ve learned I’m going to keep having bad days, and they are going to feel like it’s the worst I’ve ever felt in my life. Moral of the story- learn to ride the wave, push through the hazy moments and know that the best thing created was one day after the next. Tomorrow will be better. πŸ™‚

  • #9536
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Years ago, when I was about 15-16 years old and I was sitting at DCF’s Riverview Hospital in Middletown, CT a psychiatrist that had just finished evaluating me told me that I was “lethal” and that I would never be able to live a life outside of an inpatient psychiatric hospital setting. That’s what she thought. Yeah, I had a difficult time growing up adjusting to my home life and being able to deal with my feelings because of it, but that did not mean that I was going to be stuck in the same cycle of treatment and inpatient settings, being a ward of the state and doped up on massive amounts of medications for my entire life. I am here, I am able, capable, and well enough to make conscious decisions for my future and for mines. I did get better, and I will continue striving to do so. Some days are struggles but I know I can win those too! πŸ™‚

  • #9552
    chenieceo
    chenieceo
    Participant

    This month remind yourself that life is not a series of random events, but a pathway of awakening. This pathway ensures that you’ll never grow old-you’ll just keep growing. Only you have the ability to customize your OWN life cycle. Be thankful for this wisdom and know that it is time to get going!

  • #9578
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    “When someone you love moves on to a new journey do not cry because they are gone, but rather pray for their success because if they return it means they have failed.”

  • #9594
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Keep working hard and striving to make the best of the circumstances you have and sooner or later even those you have clashed with in the past will notice your efforts!

  • #9655
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    Be aware of those we spend our time with, for the people we surround ourselves with will either serve as a benefit or a source to bring us down in the end.

  • #9656
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    For all the times that we were told we wouldn’t be able to become anything productive or the when we were hurt beyond compare, rise up and use your transformation as a story of success.

  • #9678
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    I will choose to rely on myself in order to change for the better. I do not need approval from outside sources in order to feel empowered to be the best me I can possibly be. After all, self improvement begins with the self.

  • #9679
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    As I move through my everyday life, I will remember that fear may be an underlying emotion for many other feelings that may appear in everyday instances. I may feel like I am angry, sad, even feel hate toward something. But I will use this lesson to dig deep and understand that sometimes fear is the real cause for my emotions and then I can move forward from it.

  • #9702
    Kevin A.
    Kevin A.
    Keymaster

    “Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets into them. Don’t let whats happening around you, gets inside of you and weigh you down.”

  • #9730
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    When I think that all the doors are closing, I will look around because I know that there are always other options.

  • #9745
    Kevin A.
    Kevin A.
    Keymaster

    Love that quote Luz. I came across this one today

    “Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.”

  • #9758
    Kevin A.
    Kevin A.
    Keymaster

    “”Either you run the day or the day runs you.” Anonymous

  • #9791
    Kevin A.
    Kevin A.
    Keymaster

    “Leadership is not wielding authority, it’s empowering people.” Becky Brodin

  • #9815
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    I learned that in life I needed to go through certain obstacles in order to be where I am today. I wouldn’t have had anything to accomplish or survive if my life had been a piece of cake up to this point, I would have had everything handed to me and not have had to fight to be where I am today. Being a survivor of my circumstances does not only stop there, it means I am a survivor of life.

  • #9854
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    If we spend our entire lives focusing on the negative side of everything, when will we ever have time to dwell in all that is good? There is good in everything, even if the result is not immediately attainable. In the end, even painful experiences can result in a lesson learned or some sort of growth.

  • #9857
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    “Don’t let the life discourage you; Everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.”
    β€” Richard L. Evans

    Even on those days where I feel like I am not yet where I want to be in my life, I will be grateful and patient in my journey because I can recognize that I am a long way from where I began. πŸ™‚

  • #9866
    Luz.Feliz
    Luz.Feliz
    Participant

    I don’t know how many times I was told by psychiatrists, clinicians, etc., that I was going to be stuck in the same cycle of self-harming behavior for my entire life. I can even remember a woman who called me “lethal” after she was done evaluating me while I was at an inpatient hospital once. Being able to beat the odds everyday of my life and prove them as well as anyone else who has ever doubted me wrong is one of my greatest satisfactions in life. Just because I couldn’t at one point, doesn’t mean I’m never going to be able to do it.

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